Bhutan Proverbs (31)

“Don't put an easy tongue in an easy mouth.”

A warning against careless, excessive talkativeness — speak thoughtfully rather than freely.

“If the thought is good, your place and path are good; if the thought is bad, your place and path are bad.”

A person's inner intentions shape the course and quality of their life.

“The stripes of a tiger are on the outside; the stripes of a person are on the inside.”

An animal's nature is visible on its skin, but a person's true character is hidden within and only known over time.

“A trustworthy person steals one's heart.”

Genuine trustworthiness wins people's affection more surely than any other quality.

“Do not start your worldly life too late; do not start your religious life too early.”

Practical duties should be taken up promptly in youth, while spiritual devotion is best approached with the maturity that comes later in life.

“A girl with a dedicated heart and good behaviour is more precious than your own heart.”

Loyalty and good character in a loved one are valued above all else.

“To give happiness to another person gives such great merit it cannot even be carried by a horse.”

The spiritual merit earned by making someone else happy is immense, beyond any measure of physical burden.

“Where there is plenty of water, it rains; where there is abundant heat, the sun shines.”

Conditions tend to reinforce themselves — abundance attracts more abundance.

“Whatever joy you seek, it can be achieved by yourself; whatever misery you seek, it can be found by yourself.”

A person is ultimately responsible for creating their own happiness or suffering.

“The rain falls yonder, but the drops strike here.”

Words or actions aimed elsewhere can still land on and affect those nearby.

“On the battlefield, there is no distinction between upper and lower class.”

In moments of true crisis, social rank disappears and everyone faces the same danger.

“If there is no financial involvement between relatives, the relationship is harmonious.”

Money matters can strain even close family ties, so keeping finances separate preserves harmony.

“The way the arrow hits the target is more essential than the way it is shot; the way you listen is more essential than the way you talk.”

Results and understanding matter more than style or performance.

“Fun and pleasure are located below the navel; dispute and trouble are also located there.”

The same desires that bring pleasure can also be the source of conflict.

“Flattering words will not be spoken from the mouth of an affectionate person.”

Genuine affection expresses itself honestly, not through empty flattery.

“Never reveal all that you know to others; they might become shrewder than you.”

Discretion protects one's advantage — sharing all one's knowledge can be used against oneself.

“If they don't exchange a few words, father and son will never know one another.”

Even the closest relationships require open communication to be truly understood.

“If you tell the truth, people are not happy; if beaten with a stick, dogs are not happy.”

Honesty, like punishment, is often unwelcome even when it is deserved or necessary.

“When there are too many carpenters, the door cannot be erected.”

Too many people directing the same task leads to confusion rather than progress.

“In my homeland I possess one hundred horses, yet if I go, I go on foot.”

Wealth or status at home means nothing once you leave it behind; humility travels better than pride.

“To know your limitations is the hallmark of a wise person.”

True wisdom includes an honest awareness of one's own limits.

“If heat is applied to iron long enough it will melt; if cold is applied to water long enough it will freeze.”

Sustained effort and persistence eventually transform even the hardest circumstances.

“Walking slowly, even the donkey will reach Lhasa.”

Steady, patient effort eventually reaches its goal, no matter how humble the pace.

“The nose didn't smell the rotting head.”

We are often blind to faults that are closest to us, even our own.

“One could not cross a bridge constructed by oneself.”

Work should be built to serve others as well as oneself, not only for personal convenience.

“The arrow of the accomplished master will not be seen when it is released; only when it hits the target.”

True skill is judged by its results, not by any visible display while the work is being done.

“A fire should be extinguished when it is small; an enemy should be subdued while young.”

Problems and threats are far easier to handle before they grow large.

“Consider the tune, not the voice; consider the words, not the tune; consider the meaning, not the words.”

Look beyond surface presentation to the deeper substance and intent behind it.

“There is no death without reason.”

Every ending or loss has an underlying cause, even when it is not immediately apparent.

“Words coming from far away are always half true, half false.”

Information passed through distance and retelling should be treated with healthy skepticism.

“You must first walk around a bit before you can understand the distance from the valley to the mountain.”

Direct experience is necessary before one can truly judge or understand something.